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Domestic abuse is an incident used by a person to gain control over their partner, ex-partner or other family member – it is never the fault of the person being subjected to this behaviour and it is a crime. Sadly, domestic abuse is extremely common. However, it is often a ‘hidden crime’, with many victims of abuse either not reporting the crimes they have suffered or under-reporting it in surveys, such as the Crime Survey of England and Wales.
As a result, it isn’t known exactly how many people are affected by domestic abuse, but some of the more reliable recent data, such as the latest figures from the Office for National Statistics (November 2023) suggests that an estimated 1.4 million women aged 16 and over have experienced domestic abuse.
In addition, official figures show that an estimated 751,000 men (aged 16+) have also suffered from domestic abuse.
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, background, age, religion or ethnicity.
What are the different forms of domestic abuse, and how they can impact those around you?
Here is some information and tips to help people better understand how to deal with, and, ultimately, how to escape domestic abuse:
- Victims of domestic abuse may stay to keep the family unit together, but as parents, remember, you also have a duty to protect your children. Failure to do so could result in Social Services intervening.
- Be aware that domestic abuse does not only involve physical violence – coercive or controlling behaviour, forced marriage and emotional blackmail are also some of the many forms of domestic abuse.
- If you are a victim of domestic abuse, make sure you keep a dated diary of all incidents and GP/hospital visits that occur. Store these with a friend or on a password protected USB stick that you can hide or lock away.
- It’s also advisable to use the anonymous web browser TOR or Chrome’s Incognito mode when searching the internet for help and advice. This will make it very difficult for your abuser to trace your search history.
- Do not feel that you have to stay purely because you are financially dependent on your partner. There are many options available to you, both legally and financially.
It’s vital that we all play a part in raising awareness of domestic abuse and the ways in which victims can protect themselves and re-take control of their lives. There are now many national organisations offering help to those affected and the key is to seek help at an early stage rather than letting the situation escalate. Remember, you are not alone – there are lots of people, many of whom have survived similar situations, who are ready and willing to support you. So, if you or someone you know is experiencing any type of domestic abuse, ask for help.
At Ramsdens, our experienced and sympathetic domestic abuse solicitors are committed to supporting victims in this distressing situation by sensitively guiding them through the options. Our initial consultation is free and completely confidential – we’re hear to listen and advise you of your legal position and how you can best protect yourself and your loved ones.
